It is disheartening for me to hear the most capable youth, employees and even leaders collapsing because they feel they have hit the roadblock. Some choose to suffer in silence, while others look for an escape.

Pause at this very moment, and think

Are we not judging our capabilities? Are we not limiting our potential?

Yes, the situation might paint a different story. But are you not capable of re-designing it?

I am a firm believer that we will never face a situation that we are not capable of transforming. The question is, do we want to?

If you don’t believe in yourself, who will? When you are feeling incapable, even if you don’t say it…

Your body language shows it

Your expressions shout it

The tone of your voice screams it

And your words spill it.

Most likely, you will receive a dissatisfactory response or result. This needs to change.

It is not about creating a false image or having false hope. But it is about believing in your capability and turning it into action. Try this…

1. Accept and detach. Accept what is, but let go the pain. It is now the past.
2. Experience being. Observe the present moment without judgement.
3. Recollect your last achievement or positive moment.
4. Feel it as if it is happening right now.
5. Note down your traits that got you there.
6. Apply those traits in the present situation.
7. Review and assess.

If need be, re-strategize and implement.

Doing this will clear away most of the fog and give substantial clarity. Roadblocks are a way of telling you that something that we are doing is not working. It is an opportunity for a desired change. You may even need to discard some of the old ways that do not serve you in the present situation and adopt new ways with a clear mind.

It is true that the current situation is a result of our past actions, but it is also true that we are in charge of our present actions and subsequent results. So, when people say – this is destiny, I say, “Destiny meets you halfway for you to create one.”

What do you wish to create?

If this a situation you, your team or someone you know is facing right now, feel free to drop me a note and I will be happy to share additional techniques to suit that situation.

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‘What about other people who just don’t want to change?’

You are all pepped-up and ready to make things happen, but what about the unwilling people in your surroundings?

Notice what happens – Our entire focus turns to these people and the possible things that can go wrong. We already program our mind to believe it and subconsciously look for that evidence.

People are fascinating. They are complex, they are intriguing, and they have all the solutions when nudged in the right direction. While there isn’t a cookie cutter approach when dealing with humans, we can definitely give them a COOKIE itself. Here’s how…

Recipe for a great COOKIE:

C – converse: Conversations are necessary, but what matters more is the attitude we walk in with. Approach, not to confront but to understand their perspective.

O – observe their story: Provide a safe space for them to open up and have a non-judgemental attitude. This is crucial, as we humans are so habituated to judge. But it’s possible.

O – organize the information: Make sense of it with the previously adopted non-judgemental mindset and clarify by asking questions. Most people operate from an underlying fear or worry that needs to be addressed.

K – know your focus: Direct the conversation based on the information gathered.

I – involve their ideas: People are more engaged and produce better results when directly involved in the planning process – especially when brining their own ideas and solutions to life.

E – execute the plan: Come to an agreement of next steps with SMART goals and necessary resources/support to make it work.

Giving a COOKIE will surely bring a certain amount of sweetness and fulfilment in the way you interact going forward. So, keep the concern aside and enjoy the COOKIE

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